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I don’t normally like memes but this one was too fun to pass up!

Fuck or Pass game.
The rules are simple.
If you want to fuck the person who posts this, send them a reply saying “I’d fuck you.” But then, you have to post this in your journal, in exchange.

And we can have a wide definition “fuck.”

(Comments will be screened and will remain unpublished.)

A few days before I left New York I was invited to a rope party. I mentioned it here, but I’ve been wanting to talk a little more about it since it was one of the two times I have played in a setting that was not private (private meaning only me and my partner/s present). That night, I learned a lot about myself because I was able to test my limits in a more public setting as well as see how I fared playing with someone with whom I was not already intimate.

I met up with Wendy and we headed into the city to find Dov’s place. On the way there, I was delighted to find an Agent Provocateur store and insisted to Wendy that we take a detour and browse some of their items. Unfortunately, I’ve come to a place in my life where I do not have a lot of expendable cash but I did manage to find a pair of knickers and some fishnet thigh highs that I liked in the sale bin. Back on our path, we managed to find the apartment and outside I am introduced to a couple of folks Wendy knew named Adam and Emma.

On the street they appeared quite vanilla, as did Wendy and I, but when they came up to the apartment the dynamic of their relationship was instantly visible as he instructed her to go to the bathroom and change her clothes. From the tone of his voice this instruction was obviously not a request and from the quickness in her step as she obeyed orders, it was obvious it wasn’t going to be debated. I was quite curious about this dynamic, not because I suspect it is something I am into but because I honestly have never interacted with a couple who took D/s outside of the bedroom. I observed them casually as I was introduced to others at the party.

After introductions were made all around and people at the party began chatting amongst themselves I began to feel a little anxious. I was already starting to miss Kit, who was away for the weekend, and the only person I really knew at the party was Wendy. To combat this anxiety, I took my rope out of my bag and began to practice some knots I’d been working on. Adam was sitting next to me and we began to talk about our experience with rope and practiced a few ties as my nerves began to settle. I really had no idea what to expect out of this party- whether or not folks would play or whether I would play if given the opportunity; and the uncertainty coupled with my recent breakup and the circumstances surrounding it was a little unsettling.

Soon, others at the party took out their rope and different groups within the party began trading tips and showing examples. I got to tie Emma in a dragonfly sleeve and tied myself in a chest harness. Walking around in the chest harness, I saw Adam talking to a beautiful woman who I will also call K. I made my way to the couch that she was sharing with Adam and sat down to join them as Adam stroked our legs with a set of claws he had that appeared to be made of bone or ivory. As we sat and talked I watched K’s chest rise and fall and admired a bruise she had on her arm. Rather proud of my recently acquired bruises , I showed mine off to her and her smile turned into a frown when I did not wince as she poked them. I bruise quite easily, and the marks stay for ages (as I write this, I still have some of the bruises Kit gave me) but don’t generally hurt after the first day or so. I told K this and she expressed interest in testing that theory. Not being one to say no to a beautiful woman, I laid on my back and she dug an elbow into the bruises on each of my breasts. The pain shot through me down to my cunt and was met by her knee as she pressed it between my thighs. I really have no recollection of my reaction because I was so focused on her breasts and her lips and fighting my urge to kiss her. Being new to the kink and poly scene I am still unsure of what boundaries are okay to cross and which aren’t. After the pain became too intense she got off of me and we made our way back to the couch for further conversation. At some point, I was quite impressed as K helped me out of my tank top and bra without removing my chest harness.

Adam continued to run his claws up and down my thighs and the anxiety I’d had earlier had completely melted away. I was beginning to feel very comfortable at the party even though my breasts and thighs were exposed. Adam had me lay back on the floor and began rubbing the backs of my thighs with the claws. Soon the scratching became slapping and my ass was the target. Besides being cropped at Sex 2.0, this was my first spanking and it was positively delightful. Not wanting to disturb conversation in the room, I kept my squeals quiet, but I did let them out. Also escaping my lips were low moans, growls, and happy sighs as Adam flipped me over and began slapping my breasts. In between the hard smacks of his hand were soft caresses and I was floating in my head without a thought besides “mmmm”.

After my spanking, I had my first experience with aftercare as he held me and talked to me softly. He seemed to be almost protective of the space we shared during these moments as I was coming out of the space in which I’d been and it made that transition much easier for me.

Eventually people began to get hungry, and pizza was delivered. I was hungrier than I normally am in a social setting and attributed it to the intense sensations I had been experiencing all night. I had a slice of pizza and talked with some of the other folks at the party a bit. Mostly I listened, because I was still very much buzzing from earlier.

Another thing I got to experience at the party was one I had been dying to try for a while, having someone with a lot of rope experience tie me. I asked Dov to put me in a hog tie (which, in hindsight, was probably not a good idea because it made my knees angry at me) and he agreed. It was an intense experience and I tried to stay in the tie for a while, but I began to get really hot and sweaty, even in just panties and a tank top. I called for Dov and he untied me so that I could mill about the party.

Sometime after being tied up, Adam called for me to kneel on the couch. He told me to take my top off and to bend over the back. Dov had loaned him some of his floggers and I was terrified. Terrified not in the bad way, but in the way that I had no idea what I was in store for. Yes, this was my first flogging folks. And I had this misconception that floggers were super stingy. Well, I am happy to say that I was quite wrong. Maybe it was the way Adam was flogging me, taking time to build up the force he put into each hit, but it felt more like a massage and worked up to the hurt. After the flogging was some additional aftercare and I was so thankful for it.

Play for the night was over as the party was winding down. I caught the train home with Wendy and we both admired the rope marks still present. I thought about lucky I was to experience these things because I knew I wouldn’t have a lot of opportunity back home. And I’m right so far, while there have been possible play dates and potential spankings, most of the men (and yes, as of right now I’ve only had offers from men) who want to play with me either have little to no experience for me to feel safe playing with or they want to play in a way that makes me feel uncomfortable. I am hoping that begins to look up, but who knows. For now, I am trying to learn from the experiences I’ve had.

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x-posted from Catalina Loves

Buy A Raffle Ticket To Win A Limited, Edition, Museum Signed Print From Lochai

I’ve never discussed this on my blog before, but recent developments have prompted me to discuss the reason why I’m no longer a teacher.  Being Catalina isn’t always a good thing.  I separated early this year with my school as a peaceful way to avoid a public scandal that would ultimately affect my teenage daughter, who attended said school.

Part of my agreement I cannot legally discuss - specifically the reasons and terms of my separation -  but use your imaginations.  I can say that I agreed to leave quietly and peacefully under the condition that my (straight-a’s, honors courses, award-winning, athlete, without a discipline record) child be allowed to attend her last year of middle school just as if I had resigned at the end of the year.  Let me spell this out for you.  Faculty receive a substantial tuition discount.  I pay 10% of the tuition.  This roughly amounts to $1,100.   After leaving, all faculty are offered one more year for their children at the faculty tuition discount as a way to avoid disrupting their children’s lives too much.

A few days ago the head of my former school called me to tell me that had rescinded his offer and that she was no longer welcome to attend.  In the same phone conversation, he changed his mind and decided to honor our agreement.  Well, kind of.  I came in with the tuition and they refused to accept my payment.

Later I received an email that stated that on top of the faculty tuition, I am also expected to pay student fees, which are not covered under the faculty discount.  Okay, so throw in another $900.  I can come up with that, even if it means the car payment doesn’t get paid.

The straw that broke this camel’s back?  The additional $1,000 expense account that is being demanded by the 18th of August to cover her lunch account (which was roughly $750 last year) and field trip expenses (which are roughly $250).  I requested that she not be allowed to charge a lunch in the cafeteria and that she will bring her lunch, which is an option available to (other) parents, to have this fee waived.  The field trip charges, I can’t really object to, that seems fair, so mental tab up to $2,200.

I’ve just been informed that the school is unwilling to waive the expense account fee for her lunch account and demands the entire amount be paid.  If it is unused it will be refunded to me at the end of the year.  Nice of them to at least offer that.  This brings up my new grand total to $3,200 in 8 days.

I went from having her tuition paid to being a mile away.

I have never been as upset as I am right now.  For a “Christian” educator to use a child as a pawn in a moral battle against me, and what I represent, is unethical - it’s beyond unethical - it’s reprehensible.

So I’ve played all of my cards, my hands are tied.  He wins right now.  Because I have been judged a whore, my child loses.

I refuse to allow that to happen.  For the first time ever, I am asking my readers to help me.  I’ve asked my readers to support the arts (artists, photographers, and other bloggers) but never asked for financial support on my blogs for myself or my family.  Today that changes because my child is involved.  Today I ask for your support for my daughter’s education and future.

Similar to the project I did for Lochai, I am asking for donations towards my daughter’s education fund.   I spoke to Lochai this afternoon, and he has offered to donate three 5×7 museum signed prints from his recent exhibit at the World Erotic Art Museum, two of them are not only museum signed prints, but are also very limited editions.

Alley Bound and Curves are a limited edition of 10 museum signed prints. If you win, you will receive either 6/10 or 7/10. Beach Bound is Lochai’s iconic World’s Most Erotic Photograph winning piece, and is a signed museum print.  (Sold normally at $75/print)

On top of Lochai’s unbelievably generous offer, several people have contacted me since posting this and asked to donate items to be raffled off as well. Now, from Ellie Lumpesse we have three books:

The Straight Girl’s Gude to Sleeping With Chicks by Jen Sincero
Aqua Erotica by Mary Anne Mohanraj
The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio by Violet Blue

Ellie is also offering a 30-minute private phone session (that can include her amazingly sexy man) if you win.

And one of Janice’s friends left a comment in my blog that she would donate custom, hand made jewelry (a necklace and earring set) to a runner up.

“It’s not a kinky prize, but pretty,” she said.  Pretty indeed!  Take a look: http://quem98.livejournal.com/306470.html

Thursday and D have also offered a signed 8×10 print of any one of their photographs and a copy of the book, The Mammoth Book of Illustrated Erotic Women.  And Thursday has also offered one of her sexy (orgasmic) voicemails to a lucky winner.  Let me tell you, that is one hot prize.

Then I got an email from a total stranger, the writer of Between My Sheets, who offered:

A brand new, still in the package, never been used Silver Bullet Vibe.

And just now I heard from my Naughty Secretary who offered:

Her services as a graphic designer and artist.  She is looking into which painting(s) she is going to donate, but she has committed to two separate prizes - each being two hours of graphic design time (normally charged at $120/hr).

Edward, from Exjinn.net, the company that hosts all of our blogs and provides us without outstanding support and service, has offered:

A 50 gig hosting plan from Exjinn.net with 1-year of service.

Thank you, so much!  I cannot tell you how moved I am by the random kindness of the community.  Lochai’s the one who started the commUNITY concept, but I get it better than ever now.

Essin’ Em, the pansexual feminist sexpert on her way up, just donated a copy of the book, Wetter, with her story signed personally for you.  As if that weren’t generous enough, she has also offered an 8×10 print!

Wow!  I’m undeniably happier and at least hopeful at this point of the day than I was a few hours ago.  Thank you to everybody who has donated a prize, purchased a ticket, cross posted, and just even those who left supportive comments and emails.

I’m officially launching the “Catalina’s Emergency Tuition Fund Raffle”, here is the link to buy your virtual ticket.  Tickets are $10.00 each, you can buy as many as you’d like (if you’d like to donate $50.00, for example, I’ll enter your name 5 times).  I really will write down names and put them in a hat, and my daughter can pick the winners (of course I’ll come up with some vanilla reason why she’s doing it).  We’ll choose the winners on August 17th at 10 pm.  You will be notified by 10:15 pm.

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An important member of the sex-positive community
urgently needs our help.

Jefferson—blogger, educator, and friend to so many of us—is at this moment fighting a court battle with his ex-wife, who is seeking full custody of their three children.

Jefferson’s love for his children has been well-documented on his blog One Life, Take Two for years. His ex-wife has stated in court that he is a “great” father who loves his children.

However, among her claims is that his
bisexuality makes him an unfit parent.

Jefferson needs our help now. As a writer, his resources are limited. The costs of fighting this case are mounting quickly—and will certainly run into the tens of thousands of dollars.

As of today, there is an urgent and immediate need for at least $20,000 to cover costs associated with attorney fees and those of the law guardian who has been appointed to represent the children.

If he is unable to pay these fees by August 11, he will be forced to relinquish custody of his children.

This case is of concern to anyone whose sexuality does not fit the standard mold—because it could happen to you. This case is of concern to all writers, because Jefferson’s blog is being used as evidence against him—and that could have repercussions for our First Amendment rights.

Here’s how to help:

Make an ANONYMOUS, TAX-DEDUCTIBLE contribution to Jefferson’s legal defense by visiting the Sexual Freedom Defense and Education Fund at:

www.sfldef.org

There you will find out how to donate to Jefferson’s Defense Fund via PayPal or if you prefer, check or money order.

Please note that you MUST mention that your donation is to be used for the JEFFERSON LEGAL DEFENSE FUND.

In the coming days, www.onelifetaketwo.com will be relaunched with information about Jefferson’s ongoing case. Be sure to visit his blog for updates. In the meantime, you can contact Jefferson directly at friendsofjefferson@gmail.com.

Thanks very much for your time and concern.

Feel free to copy this and post it to your blog or to any email lists. Or link here.

Went to a rope part this past Friday with Wendy and had a lovely time. Only have pics of the hog tie but also got to experience my first open handed spanking as well as my first flogging. I also got to meet Delano which was all sorts of awesome. I have admired his rope work since I became interested in rope and I had to try hard not to become little miss fan girl.

After a 2 day drive I am happy to say that I am now back in the south. I already miss the friends I made in NYC and I very sad I couldn’t pack cute boy up and take him with me.

Jay Brannan and Margaret Cho give expert sex advice (youtube.com via Fleshbot)

I’m not included this week- been having too much fun fucking to blog as I should. Lots of great entries this week so be sure to browse the Sugasm.

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This Week’s Picks
Comedy vs. Tragedy
“Are you on your period? What? Did he just say…”

Ian, or, Sometimes Sex is Hilarious

“In short, it isn’t sex blogger sex.”

A Wish
“I wish that you could know the indescribable pleasure of being enfolded in your warm, gentle wetness.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank

Editor’s Choice
Road Rage

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Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Forgetting
How Do You Flirt With Milk?
The Hunt

I Don’t Usually Date, but…
I have huge tits.
Men on Pointe
My Femme Cock
Nibbles and Bits: Vegetarian? Really? Doh!

Present and first love making

Sex Advice
How to Make Her Want Anal Sex

Play Safe
The Power of Suggestion- And How It Helps You Meet Women

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Gisele Bundchen Topless and Nipple Slip Pictures
HNT - Purple Lace Part Two

Lady Sascha Does HHNT
Marta - Professional
Once upon a time HNT

Pornsaint Tara Tainton
A rose by any other name would smell as sweet -HNT
Sam Bound

Sex Humor
It did not work
When your mother has more sex than you do…

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Can’t Get Enough

Fiction - The Wrong Smith Girl
Getting to fuck the neighbor 15
Harder…
In any language,…
Le Cadeaux
Nine: of nasty names
Oh Honey, Make Yourself Cum for Me

The Parking Garage
Pointless

The Ride.
Rub a Dub Dub
The Second Time Around
Slow.Soft.Hot.Perfect
Spin the bottle-the conclusion
Tits~n~Teets 2
TNT - Part 2

The Wanting
Writhe

Sex News, Reviews & Interviews
Can A Film Prostitute In 1930’s Shanghai Fare Any Better Than One Of The 100,000 Prostitutes Working The Streets In The City?
Donate To Satine Phoenix’s Tantric Exploration
Escort X: Find great escorts
Spanking erotica interview with Alison Tyler
The value of erotic blogging

Wanted: Your Orgasms Caught on Tape

BDSM & Fetish
Auction of a Slave
Changing Cravings For Pain: A Survey
A Beautifully Cruel Predicament Bondage Scene
Cuntwriting
Fitting Punishment
The house in Vienna

July MVK: Play piercing

Leather Retreat 2008 – The Toll Booth
Mz Berlin Gets The Bastinado And Rack Torture On Hogtied
Necessary Roughness
Routine Maintenance, pt. 2
A Scene in Three Parts … (part III)
Taken and Collared as a Sex Slave while her husband sleeps
Telegraph
Trying on new shoes, Friday night edition

Haven’t posted a lot recently. With the break up and the move I have been trying to spend as much time I as I can with people face to face as opposed to online. BUT, I have been documenting lots of stuff with my camera phone so I thought I’d do a week in review HNT. Without further ado:

Thursday: Met up with Kit for a slice, walked down Christopher St, and had dessert at a coffee shop.

Kit vs. The Canoli

We then met up with Viviane, Lolita, Wendy, Marcello, and others at In the Flesh. Lolita got a little camera happy and snapped these photos.

Friday: Friday night I went to the presentation on deep bottoming by Cheryl Stewart at Lesbian Sex Mafia. Fantastic presentation. SO glad I went. Afterward a group of folks that attended LSM went to a diner to grab a bite. I had a burger, it was meh. After the diner, I went to Paddles to attend a SWITCH party with a very sweet boy. Had a lovely time there and a late night, getting home around 4am. Can’t talk about what we did, but I can tell you it was fucking amazing. I came, and I came close to tears.

Saturday: Went to a NYboL party at the 9th Ave Saloon. Got my boots shined and everything. I honestly never considered being on either end of bootblacking would be an erotic experience, but boy was I wrong. I sat in the chair and, as I watched Kit work his magic on my tired old boots, I instantly knew what all the fuss was about. I could feel his hands on my calves and feet through the leather as he rubbed the polish into it and the heat from the lighter he used to burn off stray threads. Suddenly, looking at him as he worked away, I got it. After he was finished, I climbed off the chair and watched him work on another pair of boots belonging to a man in a jock strap. It really is a craft, bootblacking. As the night progressed we kissed and talked and I became more aroused. Finally, without any warning he pulled me back into the hallway by the bathrooms and pushed me against the wall. His hand found it’s way between my legs and worked me quickly to orgasm through my jeans. He really is a talented boy.

View from the top.

Sunday: Saw Hair. It was lovely! I was, however, disappointed that the lights were so dimmed during the scene where everyone gets naked. My friend works tech and she fetched me after the show so that I could wait backstage with air conditioning. She also brought me this flower.

Monday: Went to the mall to help Kit shop for shorts. I bought panties from Victoria’s Secret and Gap and then back to his place to watch Buffy. However, we didn’t do much watching…

Tuesday: Low key day, low key evening. Spent the day waiting for boxes to be delivered for the move and Wendy came over to the apartment to keep me company. She tried on my bra and asked me to take a picture. Later, had pizza with a friend and watched Buffy.

Me in the same bra Wendy wore.

Wednesday: Spent a couple hours at the American Museum of Natural History. Wendy was kind enough to let her bed be used so that I could have lots of hot sex. Then we all went out to a diner. The waitress was hilarious and made us an extra special desert-

Belgian Waffle Sundae=foodgasm

Our legs tangled, his body lying atop mine. He looked at me and asked “what do you want?”, I bit into his shoulder, unable to speak. We kissed some more, our hands exploring each others bodies and still, I couldn’t get the words out. Here I was, half naked with someone and I was having trouble speaking. How is this possible? We stopped fooling around for a moment while he fetched us some water. It was hot and we were both drenched with sweat. He returned and demanded an answer to his previous question, refusing to kiss me again until I answered. “Communication is SM101″, he argued. My lips throbbed to feel his on mine and so I spoke, timidly, “I want to fuck you”.

I had to force out my answer and thinking back this morning, I have no idea why. Why was it so hard for me to tell him what I wanted? I’ve certainly had no problem showing people what I want in the past but when asked outright, I freeze up. I feel like I’ve blamed my ex for this problem, attributing my fear of telling him of my new found kinkiness to the fact that he is painfully vanilla but nope, it’s me. I even have this problem with friends with whom I have no sexual relationship, feeling the need to keep some of my actions and even this blog private from people who I know will accept me regardless. Guess I’ve got some stuff to work on. Hooray for introspection.

It’s also been pointed out to me that I apologize entirely too much, for things I have no control over, for things I have no reason to apologize for. I’m just now beginning to catch myself when I do it and hopefully I will rid myself of the habit.

Cheryl Stewart mentioned last night, one of the things necessary to go deeper into bottoming is taking personal responsibility in making your needs and limits known. I feel like, for me, this is a lesson that I can take and apply to more than just my sex life. Guess we will see where this goes.

And I also feel the need to say thank you to the boy who helped me realize the above for showing me an absolutely splendid and hot night.

So thanks to Lolita I got in touch with cute volunteer boy. After IMing back and forth for the majority of last night we made plans to meet for a slice at Rays, took a walk around the West Village, and met up with the gang at Happy Ending. Spent the evening listening to erotica being read aloud and stealing kisses back and forth. It’s been ages since I spent an evening just kissing someone and it was much enjoyed.

Really had a lovely evening and am snuggling into bed (er… couch) wishing I were not sharing the living room with visiting friends and that the Hitachi were much quieter.

So it is nearing 3am and I am still wide awake. Normally I’d take a hot bath and pull out my Hitachi but I am staying with friends til I move back home. Don’t think they’d be pleased to find me getting myself off on their couch.

Things are going okay here. I am not regretting the decision I made to end my relationship and if anything, I feel like I made the right choice. While he is a great guy I don’t think he is a match for me anymore. He was a match for me 6 years ago when we started dating and I thought I was vanilla but not a match for me now that I an exploring the kinkier aspects of my sexuality.

And speaking of kink, the next few days should be filled with kinky friends and kinky events. I will be meeting Viviane, Furry Girl,Marcello, and Wendy at Happy Ending for In the Flesh on Thursday for drinks and erotic readings. Come by and buy me a drink!

Friday I want to go to a class on deep bottoming presented by Lesbian Sex Mafia but I am a little apprehensive since I haven’t been to any of their events. I am sure they are lovely but I hate to go to a new place alone and not have a base of people whom I feel comfortable with. I am leaning towards yes right now though.

I should probably attempt sleep soon. Don’t want to sleep the entire day tomorrow.

Anyone know of any upcoming events I would enjoy?

So update, I broke up with my fiance. I am moving back to Georgia in a few weeks. Friends in NYC who want to hang, send me an email or get in touch via FetLife. I may not be writing a whole lot for a few weeks. Unless I have some incredibly hot I-just-broke-off-a-long-term-relationship sex. And the likelihood of that happening is pretty slim. Unless that cute boy that was volunteering at Leather Pride Night pops up and wants to give it a go…

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This Week’s Picks
“Are you a sex blogger or a sexy blogger?”

“It builds a community that I am so proud to be part of.”

The J Word
“And while you’re with her, I’ll be with him.”

Transcending moment
”It’s that place between fear and arousal, and they are so very closely related.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
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Editor’s Choice
Chill Pleasure

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BDSM & Fetish
Bathroom bang
Bros Not Hoes - F/m Spanking Video Clip
Cock training
Galerías de spanking: Spanking Server

Games Grown Ups Play
The Most Amazing Sex (and I didn’t come)
Mr. and Mrs. Kink Have Great Sex (Again)
My First Ever Fetish Photography Shoot & Other Wonderful Things
New spanking gallerie - Two girls spanked

Religion and BDSM
Rope
TES Fest 2008 was fabulous!
Your Slut

Sex Advice
Ask Miss Bliss-How Do I Know If A Girl Likes Me?

Fetish Safety - Branding
The Kivin Method: Guaranteed Orgasm for Women

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Advanced Exhibitionism
Autobiography of a Masturbator: Porn O’Graphicus, Part 2
Club Tantra: My Experience, Unabridged

Distraction
Fucking no foreplay
Getting to fuck the neighbor 9
Him
HNT - Peach
Insanity never felt so good

Interludes - part 1
Memoir Of A Married Woman
Popping His Cherry
Re: Dinner Last Night
“Red Bottoms” (Complete)
Sloppy Seconds, Then Thirds

That Time of the Month
Whiskey Kisses (unedited)

Sex Work
Sex Worker Solidarity: Catalina
Happy Thoughts on Being a Phonesex Op…
Stamp on my forehead saying “ask me about your fetish”

Sex & Politics
Natalia Antonova on Objectification and Desire
Teen Sex: The New After-School Special?
Women Enjoy Relative Sexual Freedom this 4th of July

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio

Bedroom Radio #18: Artemis Hunter and the Silver Bullet
Calstar Spanking - Severe deep stripe marks
Cheerleader is tired in gangbang video
Free video audition of Amsterdam sex performer
Half-Nekkid and Getting Shaved
HNT - A bit cheeky

HNT - Purple Lace
Making Love to the Camera
Mz Berlin Took This Picture Of Herself In Her New Wasp Creation Corset

Sex Humor
Top 6 Reasons for Not Shaving Your Beaver

Sex News, Reviews & Interviews

Catalina loves Lochai
Comstock Films
Drink Semen for Better Health
Interview about spanking erotica with Spanked contributor Teresa Noelle Roberts
January Seraph Is A Hot Femdom Dominating Jade Indica In Lesbian Latex Role Play
The Monday Buzz: The Bandito

Penny Flame Fucks A Handyman With A Strap-On and Feeds Him His Own Cum
Product Research: Blow Job Dildo
Yes! Yes! Yes! Personal Lubricant

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Be nice… until it is time to not be nice…
Finding out your good friends are swingers

Naughty Text Messages and Perverted Friends Makes Life Fun
Sex Advice Review: “Tips to Better Sex and Sleep”
Silence.[From Sugasm #140]

I am not included this week in the Sugasm, didn’t get a chance to submit when I was visiting back home, but I wanted to post because I respect so many of these bloggers.

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #140? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Flunking A Call
“I fell silent again and tried to think. What did he want?”

Revision
“He seemed… perfect. ”

Shaving, revisted.

“I don’t do it for society, for anyone who will or will not be seeing it. I do it for me.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank

Editor’s Choice
Exploitation, objectification and breaking the law…

More Sugasm
Join the Sugasm

See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

(Sugasm participants should re-post all the links above within a week. The following links may be excluded as long as you include all the above links.)

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Be The Man Other Men Envy, Be PullJoy
Catalina loves Her Latest BILF List
HNT - Venus and Mars
Of Pillow Fights & Panty Showing
The Way To a Man’s Heart - A Play in One Act
What is with all of the Swinging? - Truth or Fiction

Sex News, Reviews & Interviews
A Hot Medical Femdom Scene With Mz Berlin, Kayla Paige, and A Dirty Sponge Gag
I Want It! I Want It! I Want It! It’s At Exquisite Restraints Corsets
The Liberator Sex Wedge: Form, Function, Fucktacular. I love it.
New Toy Alert
Not Your Regular Vibe
Sex, Drugs & Baseball

Why inviting bi-girls to brunch is the best
Will You Carry Me Over The Threshold?
Zen And The Art Of Pornographic Madness

Sex & Politics
All Wound Up and No One to Spring On

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Cheerleader is fucked hard donkey style

Happy Fourth of July -HNT
Half-Nekkid on the Road to Hell
InFocus Girls
Pornsaint Madison Young
Property of Lady Evyl
Sandy Summers in red lingerie
Sundaycore
Thank you for the flowers
Tila Tequila Totally Nude

Sex Work
Meet Lew, My CockSucking CumEating StrapOn Slut

BDSM & Fetish
Agony of Ecstasy: the Ruined Orgasm
And marie Moaned
FLOG memories
Get a Load of These Gams!
Impromptu Ravishment Play

Miss Lioness
The Piggiest Pigs at Leather Retreat
Switchy Thoughts on Spiritual Domination
Testing the New Implements

Erotic Writing and Experiences
2nd Blogiversary
Becoming
The Cam Lover pays to fist a 19 year-old Ass
Fiction: Taxicab Confessional

Four: of weeks and wantings
Friend with benefits- properly fucked
Getting to fuck the neighbor 5
Good weekend
Gustav Klimt Nachlass
I love the way you cuddle!
Kung Fu Theater
Monday’s Slut Journal
More bloody married people and doctor/patient roleplay…..

My first visit to Manbar
Night Ride: Trigger’s Bike
Permanent haze
The prize for working
Traction Bound

• LUSTY LADY: Stalking: How It Starts I just wanted to publicly share this, to say how outraged I am and that it’s not okay. No matter what you may think about someone, there is a time to share your thoughts, and there is a time not to.

• AVN :: Buy a Sex Toy, Save a Child One might raise an eyebrow hearing the words “adult novelty” and “child” in the same sentence, but online retailer Sinless Touch’s philanthropic Adopt A Child program is about doing the right thing by providing care and education to “adopted” children. (tags: philanthropy, sextoys)

Not feeling very photogenic today so this is all you get. Happy HNT, y’all!

From CatalinaLoves

It’s no secret that I have a ridiculous crush on Lochai, and maybe a part of it is because I fell in love with his work as an artist. On top of all that I got to actually meet him yesterday and put my hands on his… prints (I know what you thought I was going to say!)

I know a lot of my readers are people who share my opinion about Lochai’s erotic and bondage images and also share my belief in supporting the art and the artists they love. That’s what this post is all about. Your opportunity to own real art while supporting the arts. It’s a win-win situation.

Lochai has a few gallery shows coming up. He talks about them in the interview we did recently here. In response to my question about his upcoming gallery shows, in particular the exhibition at the World Erotic Art Museum in Miami Beach, FL, this is what he had to say:

Wow…. To hang in a Museum is an amazing thing. To hang in this Museum is even a greater compliment in that the owner/curator, Naomi Wilzig, does not normally collect photography & has only just started to. She has thousands of painting, sculptures and other various articles that have moved her over the years and only a few photographs including ones from a good friend of mine, BT Charles. She has had many one person displays exhibited in the galleries in the 3 years WEAM has been open, but she asked me to be the first photographer. I am also a local so this adds to the pride I feel. Art gallery shows are wonderful but to say that you are displayed in a museum, for me that is something I am very proud of. I will also have Beach Bound added to the permanent collection. I was also the first heterosexual male artist to have a special “Guest Gallery” show that lasted a year of 30 of my images in the Leather Archives & Museum in Chicago http://www.leatherarchives.org/ which just came down in May.

So now here we are, it’s almost time for Lochai’s big show and now it’s time for me to get involved in the only way I know how. I’m holding my own Lochai Pledge Drive to help support Lochai’s upcoming gallery projects. He has never done this before and he may never do this again, it’s truly exclusive (and it will give your grandkids something to bring onto The Antique’s Roadshow!) Think of it is the kinky version of the PBS Pledge Drive - you know, you donate some money and they give you a nice gift to say thank you.

Here’s the rundown - you donate to Lochai’s upcoming shows. Donations are simple and easy - log into PayPal and use Lochai’s email address (nawalochai@kirinawa.com). You can even use your credit card. In return, as a thank-you gift, you receive one of Lochai’s signed prints. The print you will receive will be chosen by Lochai and is from his award-winning gallery.

Donate $25 and receive a signed 4×6 print. This is perfect to frame and put on your nightstand

Donate $50 and receive a signed 5×7 print. This is a perfect size to have on your desk, no?

Donate $75 and receive two signed 5 x 7 prints - a nice little complimentary set for your boudoir. I love the idea of having two complimentary, beautiful images, nicely framed and hung next to each other. MDS says he thinks it would be neat if you’re a couple to frame them and then put one on each of your nightstands. I love MDS. He’s so clever!

Donate $100 and receive one signed 8×10 print - perfect to hang on the wall. Actually Lochai gave me an 8×10 as a gift yesterday and it’s matted, framed, and perfectly placed on my desk, so an 8×10 is really a nice size - you can hang it or place it somewhere special.

For donations more generous than $100.00, please contact Lochai directly. Those donors will be considered sponsors and will not only have their name associated with the show as a sponsor, but as a thank-you gift will receive a signed, limited edition print in a larger size. Again, just contact Lochai directly to discuss this option. He’s a very friendly man!

• Sexual Healing, page 1 - News - Broward-Palm Beach New Times - Broward-Palm Beach New Times “That’s all right,” she said, still covered in bubbles. Catherine’s voice was like warm syrup on a cold morning. “Stay with your feelings. Talk to me. It’s OK.” (tags: sex surrogacy sexwork psychology)